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Will I ever be forgiven for the mistake, Can I ever be with him?

Q:

I got into a relationship but we turned our relationship halal , We stopped talking… but after a few weeks someone told our parents about it… I tried telling then how we stopped talking and everything but they only taunted me, called him names and also keep on saying things like how they will disown me, If I ever say I ever want to be with him…I still love him but I left it all on Allah swt….I asked for forgiveness for the relationship and for hurting my parents but I don’t know. What to do? Will Allah (swt) forgive me? Will things ever get better? Can I have a future with him?

A:

Bismihi Ta’ala

Salam Alaykum,

If you have sincerely repented, then inshallah God will forgive you.  As far as your relationship with your parents is concerned, that might take time. But if you show them that you are sorry and that you will not repeat what you did, then over time, I am confident that they will forgive you. We should bear in our minds that the relation to our parents is the most important relation amongst all our relations except for the responsibilities to the spouse.

As far as the future of the relationship with the person you were speaking about is concerned, if he meets the merits as a spouse, then he should use the proper way to proceed, else try yourself not to pay attention to his thoughts. I hope that helps, inshallah.

Sayyid Shiraz