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Salaam. My mother in law was bad to me and chucked me out of her house when I was pregnant, now we are settled and have a baby boy together. My husband has made up with his mum and wants to take our son to see her but I refuse to let him take my son. Who has more right in this situation?


Wa alaykum salam

Thank you for your question.

I am sorry for what you had to go through, I am sure it was a difficult time and you had to bear a lot.

But dear sister, life always has ups and downs. Nobody can claim that he/she has no problems in life. A person can only become successful in life when he/she  does not cling to his/her past rather learns from the past and moves forward.

To err is human and nobody is perfect. But when people realize their mistakes  and want to correct them,they should be given the chance to do so.

If we forgive someone, Allah will forgive us for our mistakes.

And this is what our religion tells us to do. Imam Ali a.s says: “the best person is the one who forgives and forgets ”

And apart from that,you cannot expect your husband to stay away from his parents forever. It is his duty to visit his parents and look after them.And he has all the rights to take his children to meet them.

I suggest that you also forgive them and go and meet them. InshaAllah ,Allah will put more barakah in your life through the duas of waledain(parents).

Sukaina Taqavi