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My Wife’s Past


Im married to a girl. And I came to know about her past about physical relations found some pictures and messages. Now i came with a problem that i dnt trust her. Im insecure. I tend to spy on her. I don’t want to leave her. I have told her about it and she is sorry and want to repair me.. Im overthinking all of the time about her past and those things i came to know and im in depression all of the time.. What should I do?


Alaykum Salaam

You must discuss your findings with her and ask her whether this is still going on. If she confirms that it was in the past and is remorseful for that conduct, you should try to forgive her.

I know that it is not easy to overlook such things but if there is genuine regret and she has begun a new chapter of life with you, forgiveness is the better course for both of you.

Kind regards

Abbas Jaffer