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What should I do . I am not able to make my wife happy and I cant divorce her because of my sister.

Q:

Sir,
I got married about 10 days ago but it was an arrange marraige. I had to get married because my sister was to marry my wife’s brother. Because of my sister I couldn’t refuse .
Now I have realised that I am unable to give my wife the proper rights (I am medically fit) but she does not attracts me and the situation we got married in is also effecting the relationship .
I am depressed.
What should I do . I am not able to make my wife happy and I cant divorce her because of my sister.
Is it my fault that I am in this situation ?
Please guide me , what should I do ?

A:

Waalykum salam Brother

Thank you for your Question.

Marriage is a very holy knot where two souls come together and somehow merge being one.
However, the merging does not mean that there are no differences, misunderstandings, quarrels.. etc. Infact, this is what makes life more of a challenge and it is the living together that neutralizes stuff.

Attraction between a husband and a wife is something that they have to keep and maintain for one another. It may not always stay there. There is always an up and down. But it is so easy to keep the attraction by doing little things for one another; a kind word, a warm smile, unexpected gift, a comment etc to a day out or a special date for the two of you to keep that fire and feeling burning.

If you feel that this thing is missing in your relation then you must seek some help. Try first to talk it out with your wife and she what she has to say about it. Next take some action to rectify the issue.
If it still doesn’t work I will suggest you seek some marriage counseling.

You must also see some counseling for your low moods and depression.
InshaAllah all goes well

Regards
N.S.Jafery