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What should be the punishment of a married woman who runs away with another man .

Q:

If a married woman runs away with another man from her house. After 4 to 5 days her parents catch her. What punishment should be given to her. If we forgave her 3 to 4 times before  but she still continues her evil ways, then what should be done in such a case?

A:

Salamun Alaykum

Thank you for your query.

Wife cannot go out of house without her husband’s consent let alone the wife running from house and having relations with a non-mahram.

According to Ayatullah al-Udhma Sayyid Ali Sistany:

Ruling 2430. It is unlawful for a woman in a permanent marriage to leave the house without the permission of her husband even if this does not infringe on his rights, except in the following cases: [i] a necessity requires her to; [ii] staying in the house causes her hardship (Haraj); [iii] the house is not appropriate for her. Also, she must submit to giving her husband sexual pleasure, which is his right, whenever he wishes. She must also not prevent him from having sexual intercourse with her without a legitimate excuse (udhr). It is obligatory on a husband to provide his wife with food, clothing, housing, and other things that she needs. If he does not provide these for her, irrespective of whether he is able to or not, he will be indebted to her. Furthermore, one of the rights of a wife is that her husband must not subject her to harassment or abuse, and he must not treat her in a harsh or rough manner without a legitimate reason.

www.sistani.org/english/book/48/2333

One can opt for separation if the problem persists but first, it has to be talked with the girl to know where the problem lies. Is it because she likes someone else and she runs away and doesn’t want to live with her own husband then she should separate as a wife having a husband cannot have relations with non-mahram. The husband should speak to his wife if that doesn’t work then the elders must get involved and see what the cause of her running from the house is. If things are solved it is good but if it stays the same then a mutual understanding must be created to live together or to separate.

Allaho A’alam

May Allah(swt) grant you success

Wassalam,

Syed Haider