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1. What is the ruling on sexual fetishes in Islam? There are many but what are permissible?
2. My Friend uses an app to fulfill his fetishes through sexting. So there some girls call him slave where he says that i am not your slave i am a slave of my creator. I am just seeking fetishes.
Does it involve Shirk?
3. What can I do to help my friend?


As-salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah

thanks for your question

According to Oxford dictionary fetish means “a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.”

So based on this definition, according to Ayatollah Sistani if his fetish is related to his wife’s body part, there is no problem in that, but other than this it is Haram.

Sexting by itself might not involve shirk but since he wants to fulfill his sexual desire through sexting with strangers (that are not his wife), it is against Quran and hadith and is Haram.

In order to help him, Talk him out of this by making him understand the problems and issues that this bad habit has for him (sometimes in severe cases it requires consulting with specialists to recover), you can also convince him for marriage (if he is not married) in order to satisfy his desires.



Sheikh Mahdi Mosayyebi