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Assalamu aalaikum. My issue is that I actually had some attraction toward a girl and then I said her that I love her, I wasn’t sure but I decided to love her in future. And even she said me that she really loves me and after some days I didn’t feel that attraction. And after lots of suffering I decided to say her that I don’t feel that love. She cries everyday and it’s been half a year and she still cries, she wants me truly and at the same time she didn’t want to force me. I always try to love her but I am always scared that what if I don’t love her. It’s like if I didn’t love her then I want to love her and I trying and trying. I also know that she is the only girl in the world who loves me so much and she can give her life for me. I want to love her Seikh. I want my heart to love her and marry her. Now I think that IS LOVE A FEELING OR A CHOICE? What do u suggestion or advice for a guy who wants to love…. What can i do. I WANT TO WHAT LOVE ACTUALLY IS?


Waalykum salam

Thank you for your Question.

What you described from your side is intact infatuation and not love. Infatuation is a feeling that dies down after a few days.

It’s very important to know that any relation with a na Mahram is haram. And any love that results from such relation has no value in the eyes of the Almighty.

If you send a decent proposal and she agrees, and once you’re finally tied under Nikah, the love that results after this would be true love and will bless the knot.

I hope I was able to answer your question.
Kind regards,
Naajiya Jaffery