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Spoilt kid

Q:

I hava a 6 year old son.. i live with my husband and his parents.. my son is becoming naughty .. he is stubborn.. rude and disobedient.. everyone has pampered him and spoilt him to the core.. we have tried to explain him with love, scolded him, punishe d him every possoble way Another issue is he llaughs uncontrollably whenwe try to discipline him.. i dont know what to do?? He is an intelligent boy and a very nice student in his school

A:
Salam. 
Allah has blessed you with a child but at the same time, He also expects you to do the right training. Your concern for your 6 year old boy is legitimate which in itself is a starting point for good Islamic upbringing.  At this young age, you still have a good chance to revert the process and start again by first of all giving him quality time rather than letting everyone spoil him with toys and things. He needs to communicate with his parents more than anything or anyone. Try reaching out and talking to him through story telling for instance. Play with him and teach him  through playing even if you have to spend hours.  Upbringing a child is one thing that requires patience to no end so pray to Allah to give you and your husband the patience to train him.  Let it be one step at a time when starting to get about this training. 
Don’t punish him through hitting or shouting, try not talking to him for a while, a child finds it very hard when parents dont speak to them even if it be for a sbort while.  Make that not too long. If he starts laughing, dont take in and be serious, he will soon get used to the idea that you mean it, and whatever action that was done by him was not good. Blame the action thst he did and not himself.
Last but not least, never forget to pray for your child specially during the  qunoot of every prayer with the ayat of sura Furqan that states,
وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا﴿74)
And who say, “Our Lord, bestow upon us from our spouses and offsprings comfort of the eyes, (Literally: the coolness (when)the eyes settle down) and make us an Éîmam (Leader) of the pious.
inshAllah if you are determined, your child will improve in no time.
 
Regards
Salma Alavi.