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Should I marry my fiance who had a year living relationship with his girlfriend. He also had some affairs with different girls.

Q:

Should I marry my fiance who had a year living relationship with his girlfriend. He also had some affairs with different girls. Now he says he loves me but I am so depressed because I don’t have that much tolerance to accept this reality. Besides I am thinking that may be he will repeat these kind of things again after marriage. Whereas I never have had even a single affair in my life. Kindly help me

A:

Waalaykum al-salam

Thank you for your question.

It is very important that to-be husband and wife have confidence in one another. I am glad that these things are disclosed to you before entering the marriage. It is very important for you to have the assurance that he has changed and has no intentions of having such affairs, whether now or after marriage.

In other words, his action is considered haram in the eyes of Allah (az). He must ask Allah for forgiveness and one of the conditions of repentance is to never go back to the same act. If he has done so, then it is only right to consider this marriage, However, you have to make sure he has these intentions otherwise, this can create further issues in your relation.

And Allah knows best.

Make plenty of dua for yourself,
Best regards
N.S.Jaffery