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Should I marry a girl who has confessed her past sins…..

Q:

I am a guy who is going through the arranged marriage process. The muslim girl said her past sins to me, that she has has relationships in the past and committed zina but is still a virgin. Additionally, she used to drink alcohol and has now stopped drinking once she has met me. I know that I am not best of Muslims, but I have never committed any type of sexual act, nor have ever drank in my life. I am not sure on what to do. I have prayed istikhara and felt nothing. I read the hadith on marrying for beauty, wealth, lineage, religion. I am not sure what to do, the girl likes me alot however my mind is thinking that she was with other men and she used to drink.

A:

As-salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah

Thanks for your question

Marriage is a decision that must be taken with thinking and consulting.

Also, we cannot judge others for their mistakes and sins, according to a hadith from Imam Sadiq (as) whoever blames a faithful for a sin, he won’t die until he commits it. Of course, it doesn’t mean to marry her instantly. This was the religious aspect of your question, But in marriage terms, it depends on you and your characteristics, some people after hearing and knowing about their spouse’s past become paranoid and make life hard for themselves and their partner, or whenever there are problems and arguments in their mutual life(as every mutual life has) they bring that old past mistake. In such cases, life would be extremely difficult for wife and husband both, so it’s advised not to do so.

Also, it is important to know whether that past relationship is over or not.

regards

Sheikh Mahdi Mosayyebi