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Rights of to grandparents after child’s mothers death


Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmathullah. I pray this reaches you in the best of health. MAY Allah SWT reward you greatly and make us all the people who hold firmly to the Quran and Sunnah. My question was after the death of a mother of a child (3 y/o) what are the rights of the maternal grandparents and maternal aunt. In addition if the child is being told that his step mother is his real mother, and to call her mom in that regards, is that ok. I know that it is permissible for a child to refer to someone as their mom out of love but as long as the child knows his lineage. My family and I keep our mouths shut and know that we should only turn to Allah Swt and seek his closeness, even though the child’s father harasses us, limits our ability to see the child and the child always cries to not leave our house among other things. I do not wish to make this longer than it already is but just wanted the Islamic ruling in regards to the rights I mentioned of the maternal grandparents and maternal aunt of the child’s mothers death and the permissibility of saying mom without the child’s true understanding of who is his birth mother and who isn’t. Barak Allah feek. Ma salama.


Waalaykum al-salam

Thank you for your question.

We are sorry to hear about your sister’s demise. May Allah bless the departed soul.
It is okay to ask a young boy to call his step mother as his. Especially if he is young and in the process will make his life in his home better with his parents.
FYI: both the maternal grandparents and his maternal aunt are his mahram. And the child needs to know that. It is also important for the child to know his real mother. After all, he inherits from her.

There are no specific text seen as “rights of grand parents” however,  the child after all belongs to the elderly couple’s daughter and the he should certainly have a relation with them (i.e. his maternal grand parents) and the rest of the siblings of the demised too.
However, it is in the best interest of the child that he should not be interfered in his household setup. After all, he is setting with his new mother and everyone should hep him in the process to have a more happier and balanced future.

hope this helps,