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Relationship Before Marriage


Assalamalaikum , I am seeing someone since a long time . We both love each other and planning to get married. We are in college. We will talk to our parents after 1 year about our relationship when our college ends . We stay far away. We don’t meet. If we tell them now they won’t agree as according to them it might affect our studies. But We are each other’s strength. Till the time we tell our parents can we be in a relationship in a halal way? Will it still amount to sin if we don’t commit in anything wrong? Please reply. I really need your advice.


Salaamun alaykum

Thank you for your question. The rules of interaction between women and men who are not married would not allow for an emotional relationship between two people. Even if they don’t sin by physically touching each other, they may sin by speaking to each other outside of the boundaries of what is necessary. The best way to deal with this situation is to discuss the situation with your parents and seek a solution as opposed to “telling them”.
May you always be successful