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Quit talking to in laws

Q:

I couldn’t make a bond with my in laws as my mother in law used to hurt me over and over again by her talks. So does is done by my sister in law. Recently my mother in law accused me of something which hurt me a lot, I didn’t say anything and have quit talking to her. I don’t go to her room, just do the necessary talks with other family members. I want to ask if it is OK to quit talking and not having any kind of relationship with them.. We are just living like strangers under one roof.

A:

Waalykum salam 

 
Thank you for your Question.
 
According to the Islamic law, one must keep ties with their “Rahim”
Rahim are people that includes all Mahram(s) and thier offsprings like your cousins. 
In-laws are not known to be Rahim and one is not obliged to keep that relation. 
 
However, ethically, it would be good to maintain simple ties so that your life with your husband and especially your children is a balanced one. Once a person has taken a step away from things like this, s/he will be able to see the horizon from a border scale, the fruits of which will be seen in your children InshaAllah. 
 
Hope this helps and your problem solved ,
Kind regards, 
Naajiya Jaffery