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Punishment for child sexual abuse


When I was as young as 13 years old my 2 older cousin sisters used to sexually assault me when I was asleep, what is the punishment for them in this world and hereafter and what will be my reward in this life and hereafter?

As per Quran it is permissible to take revenge of the exact amount, how can I take revenge if I want to?


Salaamun alaykum

Thank you for your question.
I am very sympathetic towards what you have gone through as a child and I am sure that must have been a devestating period for you and is probably affecting your life.
What you went through was very wrong and those who put you through this will surely be punished as Allah has promised in the Holy Quran
لَهُمْ مِنْ جَهَنَّمَ مِهَادٌ وَمِنْ فَوْقِهِمْ غَوَاشٍ ۚ وَكَذَٰلِكَ نَجْزِي الظَّالِمِينَ

They shall have hell for their resting place, and over them shall be sheets [of fire], and thus do We requite the wrongdoers. (Sura Aaraf:41)

يَوْمَ لَا يَنْفَعُ الظَّالِمِينَ مَعْذِرَتُهُمْ ۖ وَلَهُمُ اللَّعْنَةُ وَلَهُمْ سُوءُ الدَّارِ

the day when the excuses of the wrongdoers will not benefit them, the curse will lie on them, and for them will be the ills of the [ultimate] abode. (Sura ghafir:52)

And Allah (swt) has promised reward for those who have gone though difficulties in this world:
فَأَمَّا الْإِنْسَانُ إِذَا مَا ابْتَلَاهُ رَبُّهُ فَأَكْرَمَهُ وَنَعَّمَهُ فَيَقُولُ رَبِّي أَكْرَمَنِ

As for man, whenever his Lord tests him, and grants him honour, and blesses him, he says, ‘My Lord has honoured me.’ (sura fajr: 15)
الَّذِينَ إِذَا أَصَابَتْهُمْ مُصِيبَةٌ قَالُوا إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ أُولَٰئِكَ عَلَيْهِمْ صَلَوَاتٌ مِنْ رَبِّهِمْ وَرَحْمَةٌ ۖ وَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْمُهْتَدُونَ
those who, when an affliction visits them, say, ‘Indeed we belong to Allah and to Him do we indeed return.’It is they who receive the blessings of their Lord and [His] mercy, and it is they who are the [rightly] guided.(sura baqarah: 156/157)
I would say this world is a world of difficulties and afflictions and there is no running away from it. What is important is how we deal with the difficulties. I probably cannot imagine what you have been through all these years but my humble advice to you would to be strong and ask Allah (swt) for help to continue living a normal life and leave the rest in Him as He has promised punishment to the wrongdoers. And this is His promise and He never goes against His promises.
May Allah (swt) help us through all the difficulties for without His help, we cannot overcome any of them.

Zahra Davdani.