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Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barkatuhu as stated above how to deal with parents who always misunderstand what their son has to say. First of all they do not agree on if my husband advices secondly if he sends him monthly needs they are never thsnkful they complain always. And most importantly they do have other sources of income but still they pressurize my husband to send a fixed amount of money which he cannot afford and we end up with no money left for us. But they say they are parents and we are not supposed to argue at any cost we shall obey them whatsoever. I want to know if there is any answer in sharia looking for a anwer as my husband is only tensed about his parents he only need their love and respect and nothing else he is getting tensed and at very young age he has high bp. Please help

A:
Wa alaykum salaam

 
Thank you for your question. With parents the important point to bear in mind is that you must deal with them with kindness. Even when they get angry it is important to keep your own composure. That does not mean that you must do everything they want, especially when at times it may not be the most logical thing to do. It is always better to talk and reach a collective understanding, but in the absence of that, it is the collective responsibility of all of the children to make sure they are provided for at a satisfactory level and then there is no obligation to give them any surplus funds.
 
May you always be successful
 

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