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My mother does not agree in me marrying the girl I love since 7 years.


I love a girl from 7 years. When 6 years passed I told my mother for the nikah. She refused totally she said there are financial problems just wait for sometime let you be stable. I am in government job my pay was around 30000 PKR at that time. We have our own house although a little construction work is remaining. My mother said to wait due to financial problems I asked her that time that do you agree on this and only problem is financial reasons are you sure? She said yes. The girl waited for me for another 1.5 years. And when I asked her my mother  for our nikah again after construction of my house, she totally refused that I don’t like that girl.. She changed her stance totally. I love the girl and she is waiting for me from 7 years. What should I do now?


Salamun Alaykum

Thank you for your query.

The mother’s permission is not a condition for the son’s marriage to be valid, but the Duas and prayers of the mother and parents are necessary for happiness and a prosperous life. Give respect to your mother and love her to gain her consent.

Keeping emotions and sentiments aside, please consult with a counselor, scholar or a professional in marriage issues and see if that particular girl is appropriate for you. If not suitable, then you can leave this but if everything is suitable, try to please your mother and get her consent.

You may also want to involve a person who your mother will listen to.

brother, before we conclude, we would like to bring to your kind attention that having any relation with a na mahram is haram and you must ask Allah (az) for forgiveness on this. InshaAllah you will see the barakat of this repentance.

May Allah(swt) grant you success


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