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My mother calls me a whore

Q:

Salam… My mother is verbally abusive towards me. She most of the time is so loud that my relatives who live right next to our home listen to her. She calls me name like khoti. Kanjri (whore) and basterd …. I am 27 years old and younger among all my siblings. I feel so humiliated… So disgusted. I tried to tell her calmly that your action hurt me emotionally. But she says that she is my mother so she has a right to abuse me or even hit me. She hits me sonetime on my head or on my back. I am a lecturer in a college. I am a teacher… I am so heart broken at this time. I want to commit suicide or run somewhere alone away from her. I pray ALLAH to end my life…. I am unable to run away or commit suicide because i am afraid of taking my own life. She talks so loud and i try to tell her to please calm down or atleast don’t let neighbours hear you. But when she doesn’t stop. I lose my calm and i raise my voice telling her to stop. Most of the time i just repeat “don’t abuse me please don’t abuse me” but she doesn’t stop. My neighbours make fun of me… I can’t face them. This is happening since i were a child… I end up crying. I am crying right now…. Not only this… She tells my sibling the situation in a whole different way. She lies and make me a villian and her as a victim. I am so helpless. I can’t take it anymore. My sibling think i am disrespectful towards her not realizing what i am going through. They don’t have any idea what this is doing to me, what it has done to my mental health. May Allah end this trial for me. Please tell me is this ok? Is this normal…. I can’t take it anymore. I am tired of weeping silently and asking for forgiveness even though it is not my fault….

A:

Thank you for your Question.

Kindly refer to the following link for your answer

www.askanalim.org/node/7199

Daughters treated badly by mothers

My mother is toxic

With thanks and regards,
Ask An Alim Team.