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My inlaws family have decided 500 dollars are not wanting to discuss any further….


I’m getting married in a couple of weeks and we have recently started discussions on Haq Mahr. His family is set on 500 dollars and does not want to discuss it any further. My parents and I have asked for 5,000- 10,000 dollars. My fiancé is a doctor and currently doing his residency in urology. He currently makes about 50,000-55,000 annually but his pay will increase significantly once he completes his residency. I am aware that religious mahr should not create a burden on the husband. Therefore, we have asked that he give me the money in instalments or when he has it. He disagrees with his parents 500 dollar Mahr but his parents refuse to listen to him. I am looking for some guidance on what I can do to help the situation.
Thank you


Wa Alaykumussalam

Thank you for your query.

If your future husband feels that $500 is really less and he doesn’t agree with his parents to keep $500 as the dowry then let the marriage happen with the mentioned amount but you can speak with your husband before marriage so your husband can pay you the amount other than dowry either soon after the wedding or on instalments.

As you mentioned, the mahr shouldn’t be a hurdle in marriage but if you move forward as mentioned above, problems won’t be created just due to this matter. But the contract or mutual understanding has to be there before the marriage so later you don’t ask for more and your husband isn’t willing to pay the asked amount.

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May Allah(swt) grant you success


Syed Haider