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My husband went to hajj last year and when he returned I found out it was all a pretence and he has been having an affair

Q:

Hi

My husband went to hajj last year and when he returned I found out it was all a pretence and he has been having an affair and was even making contact with her whilst at hajj. I have filed for divorce as this is not the first time he has commuted adultry and I’m appalled that he pretends he’s a haji. However My question to you I have told his family about what he has been doing yet his nephew continues to help him with the divorce and helping him hide money. I’ve asked his sister not to allow my children to stay there overnight as it causes me distress and her response is I don’t want to get involved yet she is happy to cause me misery by allowing my children to stay there. Both know what my husband is like and both know he has commuted adultry , is it then haram for them to help him even if I have done nothing wrong . Both nephew and sister are religious people well at least I thought they were

A:

Waalaykum Salam.

Sorry to hear about your experience.

It is not Haram for them to help him out, but it definitely is a sin and
everyone will be accounted for the littlest thing they have done in the
world..

Rest assured that no action in this world goes unattended to by the Almighty.

For now I would ask you to speak to an influential person so that He.can
intermediate between the two of you and try resolve things for the better.

Just FYI. Your husband is the father of this children and he has the right
to see them. If you fear unethical behaviours from him that can influence
your kids, then you might as well speak about this to a counselor and see
what they have to offer.

You’re in my prayers
Naajiya.s.jaffery