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My father has always been abusive


I’m 26, the eldest of 4 and only girl.
My father has always been abusive, verbally and physically. He has been abusive to everyone, his parents, his siblings, his wife, his kids, friends, neighbours, acquaintances etc.
We were told someone had done taweez on him and us. We found the taweez at home too, so there is truth in this.
My question is, how do I fix my father? I’m in such a desperate state right now. I can’t even begin to describe how this is affecting me and my family. We have no support. Me and my brother happily provide For our family, we don’t complain however my dad always fights and argues with us. He threatens to kick us out all the time, tells us we need to leave. Swears at us and belittles us, always tries to control everything. I feel like my life is not getting anywhere, I have no more patience and strength left in me. We’ve all suffered for literally all our lives. When will things get better? What can I do and pray to Allah to make things go away? We all pray and beg Allah to fix things for us but it won’t go away. We have suffered for so long for our mother because she’s sacrificed a lot for us, but this is getting too much, it’s unbearable.


Assalamu Alaykum

Thank you for your Question

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. May Allah solve it Inshallah .

Not Good Relationship with Father

Apart from referring to the link provided, I feel your father needs some sort of help.
If he listens to any elderly wise person in your family or among friends, you should definitely approach him and seek help.
Someone needs to speak to him and explain what’s going on.
If he is ready to get some counselling then that would be a great help too.

Your local Aalim or scholar should be able to help out as well.

InshaAllah all Goes well
Kind regards,
Naajiya Jaffery