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salam i have been married for 8 years and now i have told my wife i want to leave separate as i dont love her anymore for how long can we live like this does it end our marriage thanks

A:
Wa alaykum salam,
 
Dear brother, the question you have asked needs quite a bit of clarification.
When I read your question, i asked myself, how is it possible that after 8 years of marriage a person feels that he doesn’t love his partner any more when
Allah clearly states that He has made marriage a source of peace, tranquilty and love in the Quran
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
 
“And of His signs is that He has created for you, from yourselves, spouses that you may gain peace through them and He has set among you love and compassion. Surely in this there are signs for thoughtful people
 
Thus it is He who puts love in the hearts of the spouses. However, there are some factors which weaken this love like misconduct of one of the spouses, inability to fulfil the needs of the partner or vice versa, taking interest in other than yourr partner, etc. 
I hope you have a valid reason for what you want to do, otherwise you will be questioned by Allah swt.
However, until she is in you Nikah, you have to give her certain rights. Refer to this link:
https://www.sistani.org/english/book/48/2349/
If you continue to choose the way of separation, it does not invalidate your Nikah except by giving her divorce through the laws of Islam
Refer to this link:
https://www.sistani.org/english/book/48/2357/
 
Regards
Sukaina Taqawi.