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Q:

My elder sister is 28years old..Somehow there is no proposal according to my parents and if there is any after asking matchmakers they never return after the first meeting..I dont know where is the issue..she is well educated, acceptable looks all ok but still…I am tired of all this rishta prade after which they will never answer or will never come back..

A:

Waalaykum al-Salam
Thank you for your question.

I can understand your frustration. But it depends on how you want to take this! So, instead of feeling low and probably making your sister feel low too, I will suggest you focus on the talent and excellencies that she has. Life isn’t at its end if she is not finding someone suitable for her. InshaAllah that too shall come, but in the meantime, it’s best you focus on what is at hand.
Maybe you want to encourage her to study further, adopt a new hobby or skill, etc. This will keep her focused and accept her self-worth.
Because one is not worthy only because of marriage. Allah created everyone special and we must also appreciate that.

Your approach will give her the confidence and courage to look beyond ritual barriers and face all challenges that may come.

InshaAllah she finds a good husband who will appreciate her in the true sense.
do not forget to recite Sura Yaseen after salat al-Fajr and Ziarat Ashura

regards,
N.S.Jaffery