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Marriage crisis: I do not feel happy with my husband. What should I do?


I do not feel happy with my husband. What should I do?


Salamun Alaykum
Thank you for your question.

Your question is very general. We will not be specifically able to help you. However, we will have some general guide lines.

For any unhappiness that a person maybe feeling, has to have a ground reason. Finding the reason will then play as a first step to happiness. Because, using the reason one can adopt necessary measures to eradicate the problem – the unhappiness- altogether.

​Marriage is no exception to the above. Afterall, two people decide to live as one and it is natural to go through a rickety path to reach compatibility and understanding. For the same reason, it is important to have good communication between the two. Your relation should be such, that you are able to convey freely each other’s likes, dislikes, happiness, comfort, discomfort, etc .

​It may be difficult at first, but as you live on and learn each other’s likes and dislikes, you will soon be very compatible with one another. Needless to say, there are definitely some things that a person may not be able to relax to, or be ok with, but those too are quite ok and your partner needs to know of those. This will help you – Insha’Allah- walk your path together in love and happiness. (and vice versa. expect him to dislikes things that you maybe liking and you must be ready to come to a fine line where both of you will feel at peace)

​Now whatever the particular reason may be sister, there is always a solution and you must seek them to better your life together. (you’re welcome to write back to us for getting specific answers).


​I will also suggest you seek some professional counseling and also do some medical runs. At times lack of iron, vitamin D3,and the like can make a person feel blue and unhappy. Solving this will immensely help you.

​Insha’Allah all goes well for you.