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Marriage and Hijab

Q:

Salam Aleikum, I am a 21 year old guy who has a girlfriend, she is Muslim but does not wear a hijab. I told my parents about this girl and disapproved of her because she is not wearing the hijab. My parents told me we will only let you marry her if she wears the hijab and she doesn’t want someone to force her to wear the hijab. I really want this girl to be my wife what do I do please advise.

A:

Waalykum salam 

 
Thank you for your Question. 
 
Marriage is a great milestone is ones life. A person must make the right choice as this one choice will have a great impact on the rest of the path. 
 
Since we are so feeble, Allah has put clear guidelines for us to be able to get some extra help In making firm decisions. He declared something’s as Halal while others haram, some Wajib, others Mustahab … etc 
And each one of them has a huge impact on us and our lives. 
 
Similarly hijab is one thing  that Allah has declared Wajib! 
Since HE knows best, he chose this for his wonderful creation: woman. 
 
On the other side, when choosing a wife, you must see a mother of your kids in her. Can you see a daughter without hijab in future and are ok with it!? Is it something that you would be willing to go against Allah’s will and also see your daughter Along the same lines!? Indeed one choice can effect ones life that far and beyond (like your future generation) 
 
Hence, the decision lies with you, however anything that goes against Allah doesn’t stand Solid. 
 
 
I find it wise to mention that the sister maybe a good Muslim and only needs some motivation and wise words to help her out and see the greater picture, in that case, she should seek some counseling and InshaAllah is Able to make a good decision 
 
Good luck, 

Naajiya Jaffery