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Left homeless…

Q:

I married my husband Sep 2016, when we first married he didn’t have a
place for us yet but he agreed he have us one by December inshAllah.
During this time we stayed at his nieces flat. I didn’t notice him
actively looking for somewhere for us to live. He still didn’t manage to
find a home still by April/May and then we were kicked out of his nieces
flat. I was left to stay in hostel and was pregnant. I was there for a
couple of months untill the council offered me a temporary accommodation.
But after our son was born social services raised up issue about My
husband records regarding Domestic violence and I wasn’t able to return
back to the property as part of there agreement as they said it was to
much of a risk. Although we are still together we told them we are not as
they threatened to take our son away if we resume our relationship. So I
had move in with my sister, then they offered me another temporary
accommodation which was cockroach infested I suffer from breathing
problems and didn’t see this healthy for my 4 month old. I came to my mums until they sorted it. I stay on floor in her spare with my room
Alhamdulilallah it’s been 2 months now. My mum does not want me to stay
here long term as she says it’s not feesable. The council offered me a
decent permanent property Alhamdulilallah! But my husband said I shouldn’t
take it because of location but he’s not offered anywhere for me to live
either. What do I do? I don’t want to disobey him but I’ve been homeless
for majority of our marriage he’s not provided me with anywhere to live so
I have to look myself he also said if I take it that he won’t be helping
with any furniture etc. If I refuse this property I’m going to end up in a
hostel/refuge again and mentally draining me moving so much with my young
son I’m desperate for a place I can call home.

P.S Husband dosnt live with us at this moment because of the social
services issue so I’m left going from hostel to house etc myself.

Jazakallah khair

A:
Assalamu alaykum

Sorry to hear about your situation.

To further peruse your Query I phoned the office of Sayyid Sistani, and they said that according to the Islamic law you can take this permanent housing because you will be left homeless.

I would suggest you also calmly speak to your husband and explain him how separate important it is to have a “home” for a child  like yours. Counselling would be a plus for bit of you.

In my prayers,

Naajiya .S.Jaffery