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Is the woman still sinful? After all the hardships and pleads for forgiveness to Allah and her husband ?

Q:

If the wife commits adultery, obviously in getting under the influence of another man, when the husband is away from her. But she soon realizes that it was a huge sin and blunder she had committed. She then comes to live with her husband and even then she felt more guilty that she had cheated on him. She becomes pregnant as after the birth of the child it comes in front of the husband that the child is not his. The woman didn’t know that she had already got pregnant before coming to live with her husband. Despite of the woman’s countless begging and apologies the husband divorces her, throws her and the baby out of his house, and removes his parentage from the child. He defames the woman in the whole society too and leaves her with no money. Is the woman still sinful? After all the hardships and pleads for forgiveness to Allah and her husband ?

A:

Salamun Alaykum

Thank you for your query.

Imam Baqir (as):“One who repents from sin is like the one who has not sinned..” [AlKulayni, alKafi, kitab al‘iman wa alkufr, bab alTawbah, hadith 10]

What the wife had done is totally Haram but if someone truly repents for his/her sin, he/she will be forgiven and there is no difference between sins.

If this woman has done a real repentance between her and God, God will definitely forgive her.

In Surah Nisa/17, Allah(swt) says:

إِنَّمَا التَّوْبَةُ عَلَى اللَّهِ لِلَّذِينَ يَعْمَلُونَ السُّوءَ بِجَهَالَةٍ ثُمَّ يَتُوبُونَ مِنْ قَرِيبٍ فَأُولَٰئِكَ يَتُوبُ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِمْ ۗ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًا

[Acceptance of] repentance by Allah is only for those who commit evil out of ignorance and then repent promptly. It is such whose repentance Allah will accept, and Allah is all-knowing, all-wise.
However, this man is also hurt by this sin committed by his wife and his grief is understandable. And nothing can be done about his behavior. We have no control over others’ behavior. The only thing that can be done is that someone speaks to this man and asks him to finish the disgrace and spreading the bad words about his ex-wife.

Conditions of a true repentance:

Some of the essentials and conditions for Tawbah are:

  1. To remorse over the past.
  2. The resolution not to return to it ever.
  3. To return to creatures their (formerly usurped) rights so that you meet God Almighty in a state of purity in which no one has any claim against you. 
  4. That you fulfill every duty that you neglected in order to satisfy your obligation in respect to it. 
  5. That you attend to the flesh of your body that has grown on unlawful nourishment so that it melts away as a result of grief and mourning and your skin adheres to your bones, after which new flesh grows in its place. 
  6. That you make your body taste the pain of obedience in the same way as it earlier tasted the pleasure of sins. When you have done these things then say Astaghfirul­lah!
    [Nahj alBalagha, saying 417]

This woman should make her connection stronger with Allah(swt) by reciting Qur’an every day, praying 5 times a day and asking for forgiveness and reading Duas(www.duas.org). This will make her get closer to Allah(swt) and she will feel peace and tranquility.

May Allah(swt) grant you success

Wassalam,

Syed Haider