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Is Male dominance is the teaching of Islam or due to social culture in our society ?

Q:

Asalam o alikum, sir i have a question regarding male dominance in our society. Is the feeling of dominance of male over his under command female like his sisters, wife and daughter is natural or it is the teaching of islam. This question came in my mind as i had noticed that we males are very much concerned about our under command ladies, however, if we think ladies are also human (they have there own will and wish, likes dislikes) and they know what is right and what is wrong. Than this feeling of selecting profession and what they do and what they should not do, like we are more concerned about there each and every thing My question is this male behavior is the teaching of Islam or due to social culture in our society ? because this behavior at times make us diffident (baadguman) ???

I will be very obliged.
Jazak ALALH kahirum

A:

Al-Salam Alaykum
Thank you for your question

Unfortunately, many cultures promote the idea that men can rule women or have them under their nose in such a way that they do not have any say in their own doings. Islam does not at all promote this idea. The holy Prophet (saww) was sent among the most ignorant people of the time.  The kind of people who did not even count women as second standard beings. They thought so low of women that they buried them alive upon birth. However,to show the importance of women, Allah blessed Rasulallah (saww) with Sayyidah Faatimah al-Zahra (s). And on the occasion revealed surah al-Kawthar. The holy Prophet (saww) gave a lot of emphasis to her. The kind that made people wonder of Rasulallah (saww)’s  behavior with her.
Whenever she would go to the Prophet (saww), he would welcome her warmly, kiss her hands and sit her in his own place. Likewise when the Prophet (saww) would go and meet Fatimah (as), she would rise up and receive him warmly while kissing his hands. The Prophet (saww) would kiss Zahra (as) often and whenever he (saww) longed to smell the fragrance of Paradise, he would go to Fatimah (as). In regards to her, He has said, “Faatimah is a part of me, whoever pleases her pleases me and whoever hurts her hurts me;” and he also said, “Faatimah is the dearest person to me.” Other statements of his bear witness to his immense love for Faatimah, and he would often address her as “O beloved of her father!”

And as the Quran explains in sura al-Ahzab:21, there is no greater example for us than the holy prophet (saww)

…لَقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ

Meaning: “There is certainly a good exemplar for you in the Apostle of Allah…”

And we should certainly follow His example and respect our women. We should learn and practice Islam as is without allowing Cultures and traditions (especially those that go  against the Islamic teachings)  disrupting  it’s teaching.

Hope this was useful
best regards!
N.S.Jaffery