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Is it wrong to accept a proposal of a divorced man with a kid?



How would you advice a girl aged 28 with no marriage proposal reaching her and if she get proposal of man aged 45 divorced has a son will there be anything bad in accepting that proposal as people would taunt in our society. If she will listen people bad comments than she has to back off from this proposal. Is there any problem in accepting this proposal due to age difference?I am  confused please help.



Waalaykum al-Salam

Thank you for your question.

Marriage is a holy knot tied on many factors, the most important being compatibility. Age too plays a role, since the husband and wife have to be on one page on many things like raising children. And at times age differences and generating gaps can cause a problem.
However, what will help you decide whether you should consider this person’s proposal or not is communication. I suggest you have a few sessions of sitting and talking to see if you are compatible. I am sure you have many questions on the reason for the breaking of his previous marriage, his son, future plans, etc

All these will lead you to make a better decision. And once you are convinced, whether it is a yes or a no. Do not hesitate to announce it. Either way, people have the habit of speaking, today is your story, and tomorrow can be mine or theirs. let this not hesitate you to make the right decision in your life.

I wish you luck my dear sister, give charity and pray to Allah for guidance and strength.