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In love with a wrong person


Salam! I have the problem that I was fall inive with the wrong person….the I do like now, is not interested in beliefs! He is Shia but he is not religious in any way. What should I do? How can I not fall in love? I want to forget him but it’s not that easy. I’m 18 years old.
What should I do now? I’m sure I cannot convince him to be religious. So I need to forget right? Especially if he is living in another country as I am.
How can I control my feelings??
Thank you


Salaamun alaykum. Thank you for your question.

Allah love those people who fight with their nafs to gain His pleasure.
And that is what you are doing. You are fighting with your nafs because you know you are after a wrong person. This is very brave of you!

Our nafs and shaytan are always there to take us astray. So if we go wrong and are stuck in a difficult position, the first and foremost thing is we ask Allah for forgiveness and ask Him to
as He is the sole helper.
And secondly you can take a paper and make a list of advantages and disadvantages of getting married to this person. If you see there are more disadvantages(taking this world and the next into consideration), then that will increase your will power to forget the boy. And Allah promises to help those who fight for His pleasure.

And lastly try and keep yourself busy and do things you like so gradually you can forget him InshaAllah.

May Allah grant us all the strength and the will power to stay on His path.

Zahra Davdani.