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I’m planning on dropping the communication completely with a boy I wanna marry (he wants it too) ,in order to make it halal…

Q:

Salaam Alaykum. I’m planning on dropping the communication completely with a boy I wanna marry (he wants it too) ,in order to make it halal. But we can’t get married until around 2 years if not more. We really love each other and we want this badly. He’s from a different continent too. Stopping the communication will affect our relationship a lot,but should I hope Allah swt will be more likely to give us the marriage after we drop this Haram?

A:

Alaikum salam sister.

You have made a wise plan and should be consistent in abiding by it.
A relationship outside wedlock is haram and one has to bear the consequences of it not only presently, but rather in the future as well considering the generation they want to bring about.
This couple of years gap that you have decided for yourselves will make you think and read about the spouse you’re about to select for yourself and your future generation. It would do the same for the boy as well.
If the partner you have selected does have the right qualities for a spouse which should be the dream of every Muslim woman, then inshAllah with prayers it will turn out according to your expectations. Staying away for Haram would always make the doors of Mercy and blessings of Allah open towards you.

But if you are Sure of this relation and the commitment in entails then kindly refer to the link Below for further guidance:

Relationship – Mutah

InshaAllah all Goes well
AAA team under the guidance of Sis Alawi

 

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From: Salma Alavi <salmakhalfan@hotmail.com>
Sent: 20 October 2020 08:34
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Subject: Re: Approval Requested : I’m planning on dropping the communication completely with a boy I wanna marry (he wants it too) ,in order to make it halal…

Alaikum salam sister.

A relationship outside wedlock is haram and one has to bear the consequences of it not only presently, but rather in the future as well considering the generation they want to bring about. The first thing is to ask Allah s.w.t for forgiveness of this relationship outside wedlock. If you have really repented, then you will.never return to your past mistake again.
Talk to your parents about the selection of your future spouse and seek the permission of your father that the boy should propose you.
Wanting space to think before getting into a serious relationship of marriage is a wise plan but i would suggest that dont keep this gap to be so long like two years. You would probably be disappointed if things would take another turn for both of you. Its better that it should be  six months or one year to finalize your decisions.
This gap of time will make you think and do some reading about the spouse you’re about to select for yourself and your future generation. It would do the same for the boy as well.
If the partner you have selected does have the right qualities for a spouse and for your future generation, which should be the dream of every Muslim woman, then inshAllah with prayers it will turn out according to your expectations. Staying away for Haram would always make the doors of Mercy and blessings of Allah open towards you.

Regards

Salma Alavi.