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I have a girlfriend, She is a Aga khani, We are together before I reverted to Islam.

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I have a girlfriend, she is with me before I reverted to Islam, what should I do now

I’m a new revert to true Islam, before this, I was an Aga khani, or from Ismaili community, Ismailis are only muslims by name, and from inside they follow Aga khan and treat him like a God, and they do alot of shirk, tobah, I have done alot of shirk in my days of jahiliya, and like others I was just a muslim by name, and I only new about Islam through old religious scholars, but I never knew about shirk and most of the prohibited things in Islam, may Allah forgive me, but when I came near to true Islam, I reverted back and left all that shirk and Ismaili community as well, but the problem is, A year back, when I was an Ismaili, I met a girl, she is now my girl friend, she is also a Ismaili, I know this is haram, and now I m confused, because in my days of jahalat, I promised her that I will marry her, but right now, she is in a different country, and I’m a student, my financial condition is not allowing me to marry her, and our family’s rivalry, but I want to fullfill my promise, now few days back I reverted to Islam, Honestly, in Ismailism, We dont even pray salah, We pray in a very different manner that is taught by the Aga khan, or I should say, Shah Karim, they dont fast, neither they give zakaat, neither they perform Hajj, and they do deedar(seeing the Aga Khan by seeing him ) which is their Hajj, Tobah, So now you can understand my condition that how far away was I from true Islam, I want to marry that girl, and I have feelings for her, but she doesnt knows about my conversion, no one knows, and my financial condition is not allowing me to marry her now, neither her family would leave me if I do so, I would have to go to her country where we both would be safe, because I sent her to her mother, because her father was physically abusive with her, and he was not accepting me, and he says that he will kill of us , she could not study, neither live a peacefull live here, thats why I sent her to a different country where her mother and she is safe there , because in my country, their is nothing as human rights, the one who has power is considered as human, and thats why his father who is goon, is considered respectfull here, and no one saved her from that daily physical abuse, so to save her life, I sent her to a different country, now , What should I do, l still need 2 to 3 years to marry her, but I can not tell her that I’m not an Ismaili anymore, and even if she accepts me like this, I want her to revert to Islam as well, I know We have done alot of harram things, but now, I want to go back to Allah, but I am worried about my promise to her, that I will marry her, and I want to, but I told you, that if I did that now, her father would try to kill me to take revenge, because no one in his family knows that I sent her there and I helped her, so now I have to go to a different country to marry her, and I can do that, after my graduation, but I need 2 more years to complete my graduation, what should I do now, and I’m worried about my promise to Allah and her as well, that she will ask me about that on the day of judgement, Kindly guide me with hadith and quranic reference,
Jazak allah khair.

A:

Waalykum salam brother
Welcome to the Muslim community brother.

May Allah grant you success and that you’re able to follow His path according to His wish. And follow the teaching of the holy prophet (s)and his holy progeny (s).

It Is important that you do what a Muslim should really do. This will begin by speaking to the girl that you are a Muslim.

Of-course this doesn’t come over night. You can let her know of you’re attraction towards the truth, and how Islam sits well with the human logic. You may also explain you are reading on it and are interested. And then finally announce you’re a revert. This act will give her ample time to also think of your decision and decide what’s good for her life.
I stress on this Point because, the promise will not matter if she is not ok with your new identity. Promises that were made on basis that were not recognized by Allah (az) will not and should not matter.

I know that what I’m trying to tell you now maybe hard, but this Is the reality and this maybe one of your first tests.
I sincerely ask you to speak to Allah and ask Him for his guidance. Speak to her of your faith and then take it from there. Because marrying a woman who (as you mentioned) maybe practicing shirk (as you wrote), will be difficulty to live with and have her as a mother to Muslim children.
You may want to think of far future..

However, If she too is interested in your new beautiful identity then you can certainly take shariah measures (like muta’a) and become Mahram until further decision for marriage is made.

In the meantime, it is your duty to keep away from Haram and also try and support your promise to an extent that Allah will be pleased InshaAllah

I pray that all goes well. And Allah bless you with the best in the dunya and Akhirah

Regards,
N.S.Jaffery