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I had relationship with a Christian girl who is now pregnant….

Q:

I am Muslim and had relationship with a  Christian lady,right now she is pregnant. I told her to abort the pregnancy in the first month because it was unplanned but she said I dont want to stop pregnancy. She said if you cannot take the responsibility of the baby so you can leave. I told her it is not about responsibility but I want to do everything legally .So my question are.
1.Can marry her or should I stop the relation?
2.Does she need to convert to Islam?
3.What would be the status of the  baby will be halal for me?(4months pregnant now)
what is the best solution for me.Please help I am really confused.

A:

Salamun Alaykum

Thank you for your query.

Brother if you hadn’t married her and had haram relationship and made her pregnant, this itself was a heinous act. You can neither marry a non-Muslim nor you can abort the child.

Answer 1 & 2:

You can only marry if she converts to Islam. Christians are considered as Ahl-al-Kitab and only temporary marriage with a christian woman is allowed. But, for permanent marriage, the girl has to be a Muslim for you to marry.

A Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian or a Jewish woman in temporary marriage. Based on precaution, it is obligatory to refrain from marrying a non-Muslim woman in permanent marriage.

A Muslim man is not allowed to marry, neither permanently nor temporarily a non-Muslim woman who is not among Ahlul Kitab. Based on obligatory precaution, a Muslim man must refrain from marrying a Zoroastrian woman, even temporarily.

www.sistani.org/english/book/46/2062/>

Answer 3:

The child born from this haram way is illegitimate and will not inherit from you.

According to the some famous jurisprudence ruling, the witness of the illegitimate child is not accepted.

Abortion according to Ayatullah al-Udhma Sayyid Ali Sistany:

Question: What is your ruling on aborting an “unwanted pregnancy” before 4 months into the pregnancy?

Answer: It is not permissible .

Question: What is the kaffara of abortion?

Answer: In case the mother aborts the child, she must give the indemnity (blood money) to the father or other heirs. And if the father carries out the abortion, the indemnity is obligatory on him and he must give it to the mother. If it is the doctor who carries out the abortion, it is obligatory on him to give the blood money to the mother and father, even if he may abort the fetus on the parents’ request. He must give the blood money except if the heirs (i.e. the mother and father)exempt him.

It would suffice for the blood money of the fetus into which soul has entered to give 5250 mithqals of silver. That is when the fetus is male and if it is female, half of that amount should be paid.

If the fetus is lifeless and it is in the form of a fertilized ovum (zygote), 105 mithqals of silver would suffice for the blood money. In case it is in the form of a leech-like substance, the indemnity is 210 mithqals. If it develops into a chewed-like substance, the indemnity is 315 mithqals. If the fetus has bones, 420 mithqals of silver would suffice. If it has developed into a complete human body with grown up limbs and organs, the indemnity is 525 mithqals of silver. If the fetus is soulless, there is no difference between a male fetus and a female one as an obligatory precaution. The Soul enters the body at the fourth month of pregnancy except for when it is proved otherwise through modern technology.

If the fetus is alive and it is aborted, the indemnity is 5250 mithqal of silver for a male child and 2625 mithqal for a female child.

*Every mithqal of silver is equivalent to 4.64 g of Silver.*

www.sistani.org/english/qa/01121

Repent for the sin you have committed and ask Allah(swt) for forgiveness and never repeat this heinous act again.

May Allah(swt) grant you success

Wassalam,

Syed Haider