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I do not want to marry my fiancee but another fellow.

Q:

Asalam-u-Alaikum I am a young Muslim girl. I have been engaged for more than a year and my Nikkah is scheduled after 3 days. I had previously faced complications with my fiancée and there had been many issues. Now everything is better and everyone is happy but I cannot convince myself to marry him. I fear I would not be able to treat him properly as a lawful wife and i fear this will add to my sins. I do not want to marry him and have told my parents about it as well but as only a few days are left and preparations are done, they did not support me. Moreover, I have developed an inclination towards a guy since last 5 months but have been ignoring and trying to conceal my feelings. Since last month it has become difficult for me. Recently i came to know that guy too has feelings and is looking foward to do Nikkah any way possible. I have tried to tell my parents about him to let us do the Nikkah instead of with my fiancee, because i cannot seem to like him. Please guide me. I am very scared because it is forbidden for a person to approach another while he/she is engaged but I did not do anything unlawful or wrong with the other guy.
Please guide me, I do not know what to do and have been praying to Allah to let the other guy and me be together because I do not want to ruin anyone’s life as a wife or build my sins as a wrong wife and i too want to marry the other guy. Jazak Allah.

A:

Assalamu Alaykum

Thank you for your question,

If you are Mahram with one another, then kindly refer to the link below:

forced Marriage and feelings for a non Mahram man

also, as you put forward yourself, things have been resolved between the two of you, they why would you consider a third person? Loyalty in Marriage is very important. Allah loves this act and blesses all those understandings that are made on this reality. and your commitment towards you fiance comes under the same thing. until you don’t have a valid reason to call of a Marriage, it will be counted as disloyalty.

hope this helps,
regards,
N.S.Jaffery