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I am not happy …

Q:

Respected sir,

I am 32 years old boy wants to married to someone, I intially told that girl to i like you and i am interested in relationship but she denied me she wants me to be her friend only

A:

Salaamun alaykum
According to Islam, friendship before marriage is not allowed.

Islam allows a man and a woman to interract but only when necessary; otherwise it is not allowed unless if they want to get to know each other before getting married.
In your case, maybe the girl is not interested in getting married and that is why she did not accept your proposal, but that shouldnt put you off, we should remind ourselves that ups and downs are part of life and the most important goal of our life is to strive to attain Allah’s pleasure; and Allah’s pleasure is not in a friendship that could lead into a haram relationship. You must ask Allah to bless you with a wife who will be a source of happiness for you in this world and in the hereafter inshaAllah.