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I am going through lots of lots of problems in my life, Kindly guide

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Assalamualaikum

I want to tell you my problems I request you to suggest me what to do. from past so many months I am going through lots  of problems in my life every day I’m crying , feelng so much difficult to live har rooz har din har time my dua karti hun and I will not leave any salah itni din se depression me hun my kya karun kitni dua karahi hun ek darwaza b nahi khul raha allah ki taraf se everyday im dying ..i have so much of faith in my allah i believe in  him so much but able to bear this pain which I’m going everyday I’m feelng so down n helpless ..plz suggest me something ..jazakallah khair

A:

Salaamun alaykum
Thank you for your question

I sympathise with you, I know it is difficult when tough times come in life and it can become very stressful.
But we have to keep in mind that everyone goes through difficulties in this world, one way to make the way easy for us to handle, is to look at other people’s difficuties. There are so many people who have so much more difficulties than we do and the we come to realise our difficulties are nothing compared to others.
Allah has crated us so that he can test us.

الَّذِي خَلَقَ الْمَوْتَ وَالْحَيَاةَ لِيَبْلُوَكُمْ أَيُّكُمْ أَحْسَنُ عَمَلًا ۚ وَهُوَ الْعَزِيزُ الْغَفُورُ
He, who created death and life that He may test you [to see] which of you is best in conduct. And He is the All-mighty, the All-forgiving. (Sura mulk:2)

But He only tests us within our capacity.

لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا ۚ
Allah does not task any soul beyond its capacity.( sura baqarah:286)

-Allah tests us because He loves us and He wants us to grow and get closer to Him. When you go through a test, that is when you find out your mistakes. So He tests only thise whom He loves because He wants to show them their misakes so they can correct them and become better people.
– sometimes we think the test we are put through is evil for us but of one is patient, then one realises that there is actually good in that for us.

Few points to keep in mind:
1- Allah loves us unconditionally, so much more than our parents do.

2- If He tests us, it is because He loves us and wants us to get purified.

3-Keep in mind that everyone has problems in life and many people have much more difficulties than us.

4- Allah loves us so much so He only wants the best for us.

5-Sometimes we ask a Allah to help us but we donot help ourselves, Allah helps those who help themselves.

6- If your problems are not solved after your effort, then this is when tawakkul comes in your life.

7- We believe with all our heart that Allah is the Most powerful, and He is the onkyone who can help the helpless so when we are in any difficulty, we turn to Him wholeheartedly and ask him to help us get through this difficulty.

8- Keep in mind that when we ask Him to solve our problens, we should not expect Him to solve it the way we want to because that might not be the best thing for us. We should rather ask him for whatever is best for us.

9- We should never lose hope in Him as He always looks after his creation.

May Allah help us stay strong through all the difficulties and make us get closer to Him. Aamen

I am sure you can get through this InshaAllah with the help of Allah and tawassul to the masumeen.

Kind regards,
Z.Z.D