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Q:

Assalamaleiykum my question is i have refused to give permission to my wife to go to a wedding because the wedding wil mix man and women together where women would be decorated when going to the wedding and men will be at the same hall so my wife wanted to go to his family because i have refused to give her permission so she sent me text she is tired of staying with me as i hold her hapiness so she is fade up of me and she wants me to pay her the wedding dress because she didnt wear that dress as i refused her to go to the wedding that is mixed between men and women

A:

Waalaykum Salaam,

It was very brave of you to stop your wife from going to a ceremony that would have included acts which were disliked by Allah. This shows you truly love her because you do not want her to go somewhere or do anything that will take her away from Allah.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَا يَعْصُونَ اللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ
Sura Tahrim:6
O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.

So you did exactly what Allah wanted of you. 
As for your wife, I would suggest that you sit her down and explain her calmly and lovingly why you didnt let her go. I am sure she will understand. Instead of ordering her, try and attract her towards yourself by being loving and explaining her and giving her the reasons. I am sure she will accept. 
And always keep trust in Allah and always ask His help. 
Its said in a riwayah that if one takes one step towards Allah, He comes ten steps towards us. 
So if we take a step for Him, for His happiness, He will surely open doors for us and make our difficulties easier inshaAllah.

Zahra Davdani