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I don’t link my husband to his x for their child


Assalamualaikum. I want to know what is the ruling on interaction with an ex-wife about children between them? My husband only contact with his ex-wife about their daughter. I do not like that and want to be the point of contact between him and his ex-wife. This will most likely cause problems. What is the best way to handle this?


Waalykum salam

Thank you for your question

I’m sure it’s uncomfortable to see your husband speak to his x. However, if his daughter is grown enough to be able interact with the father than that is definitely favorable to avoid the interaction between non-Mahrams. However, if the child is a minor and cannot independently interact directly or there was a set condition to go through the mother than there is no choice but to. Again,  if this communication is held in-front of you while you can actively listen to their convo, and is always the case then it shouldn’t worry you as such.

but if not, then you may want to speak to your husband about your concern and seek a solution together. Offer to be the bridge, but this may not be suitable for his x because she can be sensitive towards the whole idea.
so it’s all about coming to an understanding  with your husband. Although, it’s important to know that both you and him should be on the same page and not against each other. This will bond you further and find the best solution InshaAllah

Good  luck,