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Asalam u alikum
I don’t know where to begin so I’ll start from beginning 10 months ago when my daughter was around 4 or 5 months old i use to breast feed her.
One day i was lying on my back and she was sitting on top of me she tried to suck on my nipples even though my shirt was still on but i don’t remember if i was wearing any bra
She tried suking on my nipples and first i stoped her and later i didn’t stop her i liked how it FELT . It was tingling and i don’t really remember much i just remember that I liked the feeling and i didn’t stop her for couple of minutes.
But i never FELT sexual with her ever.
The next day i saw a bayan that stated if a man has sexual desire for his daugher his wife is haram on him and if a mother has sexual desire for her son her husband is haram on her.
I dont remember what i thought after the video but i never let her near my chest again.
Now my daughter is 13months old and every thing was fine until i got a waswasa during ramadan that oh i felt something when she touched me 9 months ago what if my husband is haram on me now.
I cried during my roza whole day and prayed to Allah for forgiveness. I also asked Allah to show me a good dream if you forgive me if my husband is haram on me then se d someone in my dream to tell me what i can do to fix this.
Next morning i saw a little beautiful boy in dream he was aroung 3 years old. I saw online and it meant if it was your own baby then it meant bad but if it was someone else baby then it was a good thing
I cried again as i didn’t remember if it was my own baby or not i cryed the whole day and at evening time i remembered that it was not my baby so i relaxed a little but then i asked Allah to help mr satisfy myself.
Right then i saw that seeing a beautiful boy in dream also means satisfying someones need and so i git a bit more relaxed because i thought that this was the sign from Allah.
When my husband csme that day j told him everything and he said as long as you didn’t felt like sexual with her you are fine.
He reminded me that wife is haram if she feels sexual with son. And muslimd are not lesbians.
And i felt a lot betrer because i didn’t even remembered it correctly it was 9 months ago so i forgot.
What i remember is i never felt sexual with my daughter it was just that she touched my chest.
Even though my husband says everything is fine i am still under waswasa and it is not going away i need to hear from a scholar that my husband is not haram on me because I love him too much. And also how to stop the waswasa.


Waalykum salam

Thank you for your Question

Sister, your answer lies within your own concern. You say yourself… you never felt anything Inappropriate then why worry!??

You have a beautiful daughter and I pray you nurture that neat and pure relation. You shouldn’t let Satan blow up everything for you!

Also for waswaas, the best thing would be to ignore it. The more you entertain it, the more it will bother you.

Kindly give some charity and recite Ayat al-Kursi and 4 Qul often.

Dhikr of “la hawla wala quwata illa billah al-Aliyil Adhim” is recommended to suspend fear and worry.

Hope this helps,
Please enjoy your little family