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How should i convince my husband to stay with me?

Q:

Me and my husband living separately due to job of my husband. My job is in another city but I m travelling daily and reach my husband’s home. My husband goes to Peshawar at  mother’s home for two nights on weekend He  leaves me in my mother home because I don’t have good in laws relationship. My request to my husband is that we are  married now,  so he should spend nights in our home instead of mothers home go there meet her but back  home for nights. Plz counsel me what to do

A:

Wa alaykum salam

Thank you for your question

I am not sure if I have understood your question.
According to what I have understood that you travel every day to be with your husband at his place.
And on weekends your husband goes to visit his parents house and you go to your parents house.

When two people get married, they don’t only join the bond with each other but this bond is of two families.
A husband would want his wife to have a relation with whom he loves and vice versa.

My suggestion is that try and resolve your issues with your inlaws and instead of going to your parents house on weekends, you go to your inlaws with your husband.
I know this might be very difficult for you but with patience, forbearance , kindness and Allah’s help you might be able to win their hearts.
By doing this you will make your husband happy and be able to spend time with him.
And in future you might be able to convince him to spend time in your own home.
Always remember sometimes in order to gain something we have to give in.

InshaAllah,  He will help you.

Sukaina Taqavi