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How do i do tawba ?


Assalam o Alaikum. I was once sleeping on the roof with my cousin who was 6 7 years old my age was around 16 17. Bcz of my lust i touched him inappropriatley and had his legs wrapped around mine. I may or may not have touched his private parts.i did touch his lower back lasted like 30 seconds.i realise it is wrong and what was i even thinking and this can go too wrong. I moved away from him and promised that i wouldnt do that again. I dont remember doing tooba but i did remember that i promised that i will not repeat this act again. Now 6 7 years later, i met people who touch me inappropriately and i dont like it. Like moving their hands down my shirt showing that they are attracted in a bad way towards me. I realise that this happend maybe because of that night with my cousin.and when i remember that sin, my body begins to shake. My hearbeat plumits. I become ill. Since realising that i have asked forgiveness from Allah(SWT) many times. I have promised Allah(SWT) that i will not repeat that sin.I
have also promised to take good care of my cousin. Be kind,polite and generous to him.And just a reminder that this happend only once and i have not felt or did that same thing to him ever since amd i had forgotten about it after that night and during these 6 7 years i had spend good time with him. Treated him like a younger and did not repeat my act . And every time i pray i asked forgiveness from Allah(SWT) from that sin. I feel guilty,ashamed,devastated that this may just ruin my life and most importantly here after. May Allah(SWT) forgive my sins. Ameen. Since he is little i cannot tell him because he cannot understand it yet since he is still 12 years old. I have promised Allah that i will take care of him like my little brother and even more so that this act might be accepted as a repentance or Kafara. I ask forgiveness from Allah (SWT) literally everytime i pray and every time i remember this sin. Reminder: i did this sin only once and have not done that since because i realised immediately that it is wrong. Pls help me. Can my tawba be complete by asking Allah(SWTs) for forgiveness. How do i do tawba from this sin. Pls help.I already asked this question before but was not answered. Pls help me. How do i do tawba.


Walikum Salam

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Do not despair from Allah’s mercy as that is a grave sin.
Allah says in the holy Quran (Al-Zumar:53)

۞ قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَىٰ أَنْفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِنْ رَحْمَةِ اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا ۚ إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ

Meaning: Say [that Allah declares,] ‘O My servants who have committed excesses against their own souls, do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed Allah will forgive all sins. Indeed, He is the All-forgiving, the All-merciful.

Also, I’d like you to take some serious action against people who touch you inappropriately. It is Haram, unethical and can entail a lot of things. Please speak to an elderly or authority to help you out.

Further more, what happened has happened and is gone InshaAllah. More so, because you repented over it and have never done it again. So there is not point in mentioning this to your little cousin and spoil your brother hood.

May Allah help and bless you
Kind regards,
AAA under the guidance of N.S.Jaffery