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How do I change my Husbands unethical behavior.


My husband is an army doctor but when he is on duty, I don’t know what is in his mind. He thinks I am busy with some other males for pleasure. I have 2 kids. And I have no such interests instead My husband always traps girls via Internet apps, watches porn videos and other bad habits of males. And in anger he starts abusing me and use unethical words for me. Especially when I have some issue regarding health of my kids or myself, instead of listening  to me, he starts insulting me. Please tell how can I change him


Wa alaykum Salam

Thank you for your question.

I am sorry for what you are going through.  I pray that with Allah’s help you are able to solve your problem .

Whenever spouses have problems between themselves, the best solution  is  to talk to each other about it.  This should be done very politely, calmly and at the right time.

I suggest you look for an appropriate  time to speak to him and  assure him that he is the only person you love and you expect the same from him.

If this doesn’t work,then the other option is to ask a reliable person around you to speak to him or visit a good counselor .

If your husband doesn’t agree to visit a counselor, I suggest you visit him alone and take advice from him.

And most important of all, pray to Allah. He is the best of helper.

Sukaina Taqavi.