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forced Marriage and no feelings for husband


Assalamualaikum, My parents were abusive and toxic since my childhood, and it still exists. They have external affairs and I have seen domestic violence since my childhood. They have lots money, because of these, people can’t say them anything or my family members. As my father is the oldest and richest. I was in love with a boy, who also loves me, as he is solid standard for my family status and also good in heart, I choose him and we both wanted to marry. He is one of the best programmers in my country, Bangladesh and is finding my job for google. But my parents didn’t agree just because I chose him, and they are saying I don’t have right to choose or to choice. My mom forcefully gave me marriage, my father beaten me, they both tortured me, cursed me, mentally and physically abuse me. My father thinks that I have moved on, as my mother plays here some politics, but my entire family knows that it was forced marriage including my mother.
We still in love with each other but he doesn’t have that much money to face my father if he does anything harmful.
Allah knows everything, I couldn’t and can never be in love with this man whom I had to marry. I couldn’t adjust with my parents from my childhood to now, I am 23 years right now. How can I will be adjust with a boy whom I didn’t want to marry. It’s like rape every time and I don’t have any way, my so called parents won’t listen. My parents actually didn’t do a single task which may lead good to me rather to give me birth. I don’t have any feelings towards them.

A. I and the boy pray everyday and we stopped all the things that maybe create infatuation or every haram things. We just talk in a year if he is alive or not, that’s all. Allah knows everything, will I have to be with this person whom I had to marry in jannah? I want him in jannah. And I pray for that. I need your suggestions


Assalamu Alaykum

Thank you for your Question

It is sad to learn about your childhood and the things you’ve had to go through. But you must know that you are someone’s wife and are responsible towards your title now. Forced Marriage are not Valid if the Girl refuses at the time of her Nikah (aqd). if she was married away forcefully and lived with her spouse, the marriage will be considered in order. therefore, Allah recognises you and your husband as man and wife-according to the Islamic laws.

The other man is a non-Mahram to you and it is Haram for you to have any sort of relation with him.

also, we are free to speak to Allah (az) and ask for whatever we like or want. however, He Himself has taught us to ask as follows (surah al-Baqarah:201)

وَمِنْهُمْ مَنْ يَقُولُ رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ

meaning: and among them there are those who say, ‘Our Lord, give us good in this world and good in the Hereafter, and save us from the punishment of the Fire.’
InshaAllah you’re able to enjoy your married life and make the most of it.