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I Dont want to get married with fiancé due to physical appearance


Assalam u Alaikum sir i am in a very confusing situation that i got committed 2 years back, my fiance was not a good looking person even at that time (chubby & dark, but he took care of his appearance & tried to maintain) but i was impressed from his kind nature, still, he is good at character really cares for me but after some time he stopped caring about his appearance, he started looking ugly, even more dark, he got weight gain (115kgs) & looks so fat nowadays, he is getting so bad that even after remembering all his else character i do not any more feel attracted to him, i really tried to cope up with him but i feel disconnected to him & i am scared that i will not be happy with him or may fall into sin by looking or falling for other men, also hurting my fiance. (may Allah save us from all the sins) I am not happy with him, I left him, without telling him actual reason so he may get hurt, but now he says that he will not forgive me at any cost, but still, i do not feel connected to him , as marriage is a very sacred bond but i do not feel attracted also i am not happy, and he is not forgiving me what should i do,i am very worried please help me how can i make him forgive me , plz help plz


Waalykum salam

Thank you for your Question
Marriage is really a sacred  stance and it is indeed very sad to hear that someone may wish to break away from it just because her fiancé has not been paying attention to his physical self.
Marriage is not just two physical bodies coming together rather two souls who commit to one another with love and dedication.
This dedication has a lot more to it than just the physical aspect.
The fact that he cares for you and loves you is the most important thing and it is really unfair that he doesn’t even know why you’re leaving him!?
You’re his wife to be and it is only you who will have the greatest impact on him.your words and wishes will straight go into his heart. In that case,you must tell him how you wish him to appear in public and that you want his physical self to be more balanced than now.
You should try and make marriage more holy than just physical bonding. Because you’re marrying him and not his appearance.
Anyhow,I don’t mean to blame you on this, it can be very hard but it is only fair to Atleast let him know and help him too. Indeed it will be very sad to let go off someone who really cares for you
I hope this was useful


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