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Delay in marriage


I have been in a long distance relationship with a guy who’s struggling to settle down. He’s trying everything he can so we get married but unfortunately it gets delayed due to something. Is it a sign from Allah that we are not meant to be together? Is it ok if someone else does the istekhara for us because I have tried and didn’t see anything


Assalamu Alaykum 

Thank you for Your Question. 

Marriage is a very holy and lofty mile stone a person can achieve. it needs to be committed to with understanding and correct mind set. 

Material and financial constrains cannot be a sign from Allah (az) that you aren’t meant to be together. Not all marriages that happen out there have never had prior constrains or issues. 

On a side note, i’m not sure if your relation is Halal to this point. in your writing you have just mentioned that you have a long distance relation, but are you Mahram with one another? this fact, is very important. becuase anything that isn’t Halal will not be blessed by Allah (az). hence, you may want to consider all the facts and then redefine this Relation. 

I hope this helps,
Good Luck