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deeply fall in love with someone who is married


i am in deeply fall in love with someone.But i realised my feelings in his weeding day.He love me as well. Now he is married due to commitment of marriage he cant say her go.Neither i cant say her go.That girl also chasing for his love but he cant love her.He is maintaing his reponsibility but dont love her.That wife said me so.I am unbale to move my life.Three life is suffering now.I tried a lot but cant forget him.We three are in very terrible situation now.His wife message me sometimes.Can you tell me what i will do?Yes i want him in halal way.We dont communicate infact.After his marriage just talk two days.His wife know we love each other .I need the solution.Its becoming difficult for me to live without him every single day.I tried,i pray only get peace when i pray.Asking help from Allah always.Can you tell me what should i do? Is there any solution so that we can be together without hurting that girl?Do you think that girl can help us to reunite?


Salaam sister. Thank you for your question.
It is very admirable of you that you are turning to Allah for help in this situation as He is the one we should always turn to. We should always keep in mind that He loves us indeftinitely and always wants good for us and never wants bad for us. So He is never selfish in His love.
When one loves another truly, they try never to be selfish in their love.
You love Allah so much and Allahs pleasure is so important for you and you dont want to take any step which will not please Allah and so if u truly love the man, you should try (even though i understand it is going to be very difficult) and end things with him and give him a chance to live with his wife. Because by you two wanting to be together, he cannot fulfill his duties toward his wife properly and might  even decide to divorce her, (one of the things that Allah despises so much) and thus is not pleasing Allah. And you dont want someone you love to go against Allahs pleasure when it is so important for you to please Allah.
My humble opinion would be to stay away from them and Allah will put love between them as He says in sura Rum/21

«وَ مِنْ آیاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَکُمْ مِنْ اَنْفُسِکُمْ اَزْواجاً لِتَسْکُنُوا اِلَیْها وَ جَعَلَ بَیْنَکُم مَوَدَّةً وَ رَحْمَةً اِنَّ فِی ذلِکَ لاَیاتٍ لِقَومٍ یَتَفَکَّرُونَ
And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.

By doing this, not only are you saving your dunya and your hereafter but even the mans dunya and hereafter for which Allah will reward you tremendously because He watches over us all the time and knows everthing about us.

وَاِمَّا يَنۡزَغَـنَّكَ مِنَ الشَّيۡطٰنِ نَزۡغٌ فَاسۡتَعِذۡ بِاللّٰهِؕ اِنَّهٗ سَمِيۡعٌ عَلِيۡمٌ‏
Sura Aaraaf/200says:
Should a temptatiom from shaytan disturb you,seek.refuge in Allah; surely He is Hearing,Knowing.

Allah tests those whom He loves, so keep in mind Allah loves you and is watching over you so keep your trust in Him and never lose hope. After every difficulty there is ease.

Zahra Davdani.