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confused getting married but take care of parents


Assalamualaikum, I have a confusion in making a major life decision if I should marry or not. I am looking for advice but not sure who will be the best to ask for. I am the eldest daughter of my parents and we are 5 siblings, 4 daughters and the youngest son. I am 25 years old. 2 of my younger sisters got married Alhamdulillah. My parents are old and are getting weak. I and my sisters used to take care of my two younger siblings. My younger sister is of age 15 and my younger brother of age 8. I have a marriage proposal that I am happy with but I am worried who is going to take care of my parents and my younger siblings. I am thinking of rejecting the proposal and helping my parents financially and taking care of my siblings. I tried to read Islamic articles to figure out what would Islam suggest. I tried to discuss this with the guy and he doesn’t seem happy about it. It makes him insecure that I will not be able to take my responsibilities properly if I have my parents and siblings in my mind. It is very difficult for me to pick one of two: family or marriage. Please provide me with the best advice as soon as possible. In Sha Allah.

Alaikum salam sister.
A girl of your age is ready for marriage and capable enough to take responsibilities to manage a home and make the environment peaceful for its members, be it a single unit family or even an extended one. If your parents and siblings need you so much so that they cant survive then you can first start by convincing your partner of choice that you are able to help them as well as give time to his family and see if he able to compromise. If not then have insight in considering the proposal whether it is a right match or not regarding the fact that your parents will also be considered as his parents in future and he is somehow responsible for them at least through letting you help them.
If your parents are happy to get you married and settled which most parents would be for their daughter then know that they will somehow manage on their own. You can always pre-arrange a loan or a bank account for them that can help to run the house on a monthly basis and also keep in touch with them on a daily basis.
If you think its the right time and person for you then don’t delay the marriage specially if you are ready for it and would fall in any forbidden act. InshAllah Allah will help you make the right decision.
Salma Alavi.