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Conflicts on marriage acceptance

Q:

Salam,

Hope you’re doing well,

I love a guy and he loves me too, and in tbh fact we haven’t shared any relationship but only that we have asked our parents that we want to get married to each other and neither of our family agrees, I come from a more kind of an conservative Islamic family whilst his famiy is quite modern compared to ours, but our parents are cousins, the only issue his family has is that my family is really conservative, whilst my family thinks he’s not a good guy (like a really bad rich brat), while in reality he has all the attributes that would make him a really nice man, like being the first at mosque, giving azan, being a true lover of Ahlulbayt, respect for his mother and family (one core reason i want to marry him) someone who guided me to islam back once, constant love for ziarat, and he loves reading quran and respects women. although My family knows of his good characteristics they are more core in belief to the gossips that state he’s bad,

Please give me an advice on how I can make my family understand all his good characteristics or what advice would you give.
Thanks

*I have a request please do not put this question on your online forum, and just answer it to me.please*

A:

Waalaykum Salam

You should try talking to one of your parents, who you’re closer and easy
with. Sometimes an older Sibling can also be a good channel to send across
your thoughts.

If the above is not working out, I would suggest you speak to a Local
Aalim available at your centre or Masjid and or an elderly who your
parents, and his all together, would listen to.

InshaAllah your issue is resolved for the best
Kind regards
Naajiya.S.Jaffery