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Choosing a girl for marriage.


My question is about a girl to whom I want to marry she also know that I was loyal with her and also talked to my parents to ask her parents for marriage.But in between from last year she was in relation with someone else and there was some how unwanted physical relation which she don’t want but unfortunately was there. Now she had left that path and ask me to save her life as she was not on right track she is asking for forgiveness and asking me to marry her as she had understand my value in her life. What Islam says if I will save her and she will left that path then what Islam say should I marry her or not?


Salamun Alaikum Brother,

If this girl has committed any illicit act outside the sharia repents to Allah, truly and sincerely, then Allah will forgive her, and overlook the sin. Allah says, after mentioning the warning to those who commit fornication even if it was unintentionally done,

“Except those who repent and believe, and do righteous deeds; for those, Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.

And whosoever repents and does righteous good deeds; then verily, he repents towards Allah with true repentance”

Al-Furqaan 25:70-71

If sincere repentance has transpired, then it will become permissible for you to enter a marriage contract with her.

If the matter is as described, the girl must repent to Allah in a manner that she gives up this sin, and regrets what has happened of her immoral actions, and resolve not to do it again, and do a lot of good deeds, in the hope that Allah will accept her repentance and turn her bad deeds into good.
Should you witness these signs in her, then if you truly find her to have the right criteria of selecting a spouse and compatibility between the two of you,  you will be saving her life by getting married to her and earn a great deal of reward inshAllah.
Remember, the right spouse should have a good Islamic character and a desire to live a righteous life thus it cannot be so easy to make such a decision.
Give it a lot of thought and take some time before making this crucial decision such that it can give you a peaceful life ahead and you may earn the pleasure of Allah.


Salma Alavi.