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Chating on messenger with a boy 15 years younger than me


I am a married woman and I have two daughters .I want to ask that what is your opinion about the chatting on messenger I chat with a boy who is about 15 yeras yonger to me. It is only a friendship .I never gave him my pic and we never  call and My husband knows about him .I am patient of depression and My husband is a busy man so for relief I chat him, What is your opinion please give an answer?


Salamun Alaykum

Thank you for your query.

According to Ayatullah al-Udhma Sayyid Ali Sistany:

Question: Is it permissible to chat with girls on the internet?

Answer: If it is feared that they might be drawn towards sin, it is not permissible. Normally chatting ends up in a sin for both sides.

Question: Can I be in a friendly relationship with a girl in my class.

Answer: All kinds of relations with a non-mahram including joking, expressing mutual love, talking with the intention of deriving pleasure, looking at the body of a girl (except her face and hands up to the wrists) and at her hair or looking at her face with pleasure are Haram (forbidden). In fact, if it is feared that they might fall into a sin, it is forbidden for them to have any kind of relationship with each other.

I can imagine your situation, but there are many other ways to release the stress such as some games, drawings for relief, laughing, staying busy in different activities, meditating, and especially listening to Quran and Duas and reciting them will really help you out. There are other ways to release stress and depression for which you can search online and find the best way which helps you other than listening to music etc which is Haram and some count it as a stress release. Make your connection strong enough with Allah(swt) by listening to Quran and i hope that will help you release some stress.

May Allah(swt) grant you success


Syed Haider