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Can I marry a Sunni, and upbring my children as Shia?


Kindly give me the valid references about my question Can I marry a sunni boy? I am Shia syed girl and afterwards can I make my childern shia by upbringing them in shia atmosphere
Secondly, I want to ask if a sunni boy has  better moral character than a Syed man would we still have to prefer that syed guy ??


Salamun Alaykum

Thank you for your query.

According to Ayatullah al-Udhma Sayyid Ali Sistany:

Getting married to the People of the Book(Ahle Kitab) isn’t permissible as an obligatory precaution. On the other hand, it is okay to get married with Sunnis if there isn’t any fear of going astray and losing Shia beliefs as a result.

If you marry a sunni boy and you think you can’t up bring your children as Shia then it would be better to marry a Shia boy.

Regarding your second question. Remember that it is not compulsory for a Sayyid boy to marry a Sayyid girl.

Question: Can a Sayyid girl marry a non-Sayyid man?

Answer: It is permissible and there is no objection to it.

Allah (swt) states in Surah Baqarah/221:

وَلَا تَنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنَّ ۚ وَلَأَمَةٌ مُؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ ۗ وَلَا تُنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنُوا ۚ وَلَعَبْدٌ مُؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ ۗ أُولَٰئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى النَّارِ ۖ وَاللَّهُ يَدْعُو إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَالْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ ۖ وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ

And do not marry the idolatresses until they believe, and certainly a believing maid is better than an idolatress woman, even though she should please you; and do not give (believing women) in marriage to idolaters until they believe, and certainly a believing servant is better than an idolater, even though he should please you; these invite to the fire, and Allah invites to the garden and to forgiveness by His will, and makes clear His communications to men, that they may be mindful.

One of the messages we get from this verse is that the criteria in marriage should be being faithful.
If you don’t get a Sayyid boy to marry you can obviously find non-Sayyid faithful Shia boy.

Imam Sadiq(as) says: 

إِذَا تَزَوَّجَ اَلرَّجُلُ اَلْمَرْأَةَ لِمَالِهَا أَوْ جَمَالِهَا لَمْ يُرْزَقْ ذَلِكَ فَإِنْ تَزَوَّجَهَا لِدِينِهَا رَزَقَهُ اَللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ جَمَالَهَا وَ مَالَهَا

If a man marries a woman for her beauty or wealth, he will not be granted with this, but if he marries her for her religion, then Allah(swt) will grant him her beauty and wealth.

We must try to keep our generations, the lover of Ahlul Bayt(as), as they gave their lives in the way of Islam so the true Islam can reach us.

May Allah(swt) grant you success.


Syed Haider